...or even 50 is so much more enjoyable now than it ever was, and it's proving to just get better as we get older. When you get our age the children are grown, we don't have to prove anything to anyone and we're old enough to enjoy the company of good friends and great sex. We're comfortable with our sexuality, wants and desires and above all else - we're comfortable with ourselves.

I've lost count of how many emails we get from younger couples (20's & 30's) saying they can go all night long - who cares!! We give it our all the first time and don't worry about trying to prove how long we can last. Foreplay and intense intimacy is much more enjoyable than a quick trip to the sheets. Quality is much more important than quantity.

The greatest people we've ever met we've met in the lifestyle and we've made lifelong friends along the way. We look forward to the next half of our life!

Your 100% right... It's not the quantity, it's the quality. Pleasing each other to the fulliest is the key.... planting memories that will keep them wanting more....(both ways)..... After 40, you appreciate a lot more in your life... cuz your ALIVE.. happy trails all.

Well put J & B.

We also receive many of the same emails and from people who specify that they do not wish to meet others who are over 40/50. Besides the "we can go allnight" thing is the "we saw your pics and will make an exception". Obviously without paying much attention to a profile. We didn't join the lifestyle to be an exception or a notch on someones bed post.

For us sexual intimacy is something we chose to share with people we feel close to (Like adding the icing on the cake) to a friendship, rather than just sex for the sake of sex. Maybe as we reach that 40/50 mark we begin to appreciate the intimacy really involved here as well as the the pure physical pleasure.

Like you we have made lifelong friends in the lifestyle and try to make plans around meeting them again and again in our travels instead of always searching out that new conquest.

We're hoping that we have just made some new friends to help us enjoy that "next half of our lives.

I agree also.I am 50 and am very attacted to 50`s ladies,really enjoy giving a massage to start with.It is a nice way to relax and get to know her body,what she enjoys,and it makes sex that more better.Like what has been said before,quality not quanity.I think you have to be mature to appreciate the difference.Besides the sex it is great just seeing a mature lady nude.Younger people seem to think that a perfect body is needed for perfect sex.mature people know this is not the case.Those seeking perfection are probably shallow anyways,probably they will never find true satisfaction.I want to get into the swinging lifestyle to meet some nice mature ladies for friendship,and if sex occures that would be nice,but if it doesn`t it would still be nice.I am wondering how those in the lifestyle find the sex as compared to a monogamous lifestyle.At this age I think it would be nice to enjoy the charms of more than one lady.

In reply to mac50:
Sex after 40 is seems co come with more honesty and freedom than prior years. B and I have never been more secure in our marriage of 22 years and suddenly find ourselves alone with the kids moved away and with a renewed zear for adventure and fully enjoying what life has to offer. We talk very openly about sex and enjoy sharing our mutual wish to enjoy other partners of partner together. She has recently discovered an interest in the same sex and no doubt we will enjoy new experiances in the near future. Can't wait to start.

When I played football in highschool before all the metal detectors and parking lot cops, I found the toughest place to be on the field was our own 40-yard line with a first-and-ten.

It was tough because the 50-yard line was in sight and there was enough yardage behind us to take some chances.

There was also that expectation of crossing the 50 and driving to a score.

That was football.

As we advance in life past expereinces are frozen and fixed according to how we remember them, or, choose not to. There's more room in the past to get lost in memories at the expense of who we are now.

The 'quantity and quality' issue is often resolved by using the maturity and intellect in appreciation the play call at mid-field is quite different than when you're parked on your own 20.

Ok, how about a play-action to freeze the linebackers and let's burn 'em deep with a fly pattern.....Let's sell it big time with a trap block by the left tackle? On 4!

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i agree totally my husband and i have the most incredible sex i am 42 he is 36 and man can he get bus tonite we soaked in our hot tub under the lite of the full moon and he wacked my ass a good one!!

Not long ago, I lost my father to cancer. In the weeks before he passed we had several great talks about life and living it. In retrospect of his life, he had a lot more regrets for the things he did not do than the things he did.

I am 45 now and was very responsible from the teen years until the 40's. Not to sound morbid but I have seen the deathbed. No one goes there but each of us as individuals ultimately. Somehow I think that a part of acceptance of "the end" is greatly increased by having lived while alive. Doing more of the things we dared to do, loved to do. Creating a lot of "smilage" along the way. My personal direction is to learn from my father and do a lot more of the things I have passions for and that certainly includes the wonder and magic of sex -- as well as adding to others lives in the same way...giving is getting in many ways. And how wonderful to be a part od someone else's great memories too!

So I say to you over 40 types, make those memories. Perhaps the greatest risk in life is to risk nothing. To use Artsycouple's football example, throw more "hail mary's" to the end zone indeed! Be more unpredictable...And as several of you indicated, for many of us over 40, our senses can see and experiences things that 21 year old could never fathom... Here's to your "smilage" along the way!

2Tonka

This may be misinterpreted (being that I am only 36) but I think sex with a (after 40) should be almost illegal (grin)... my wife is the best damn thing that ever happen to me. Listen up all you young "know it all's", listen to your elders (grin) they "KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING"

Mick

Sex after forty is the greatest...I myself am 45 and in the past four years I have come to enjoy sex to the utmost...It also helps to have apartner that enjoys it as much as i do. I really believe that a women reaches her sexual peak at this age. My partner is much younger than I am but since being with him I have come to enjoy sex and also be more open in talking about it with him and expresing my desires as well. So even though i agree that sex is great after 40 I also believe you need a partner that enjoys sex as much as you do and one that is also willing to share there thoughts and and desires with you. I so believe though that we are more comfortable with our wants and needs at our age.. Myself another factor my be that my children are grown and gone and I can be myself now, and enjoy all aspects of sex.

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