Since the dawn of time, mankind has yearned to swing. But it has been a long road. First they had to invent sex...

The 60's were wide open for the youth. Youth defined as say 15 thru 25. Sex was fun, something to experiment with. Sex was easy and sex was definitely fun. Older folks in their 0 and 40's had a problem in that they were supposed to set examples. They were married. They were supposed to be settled and monogamous. When a couple got married they were supposed to settle down and be sensible and raise a family. Some of the older folk decided that sex was fun and the devil with convention. THey participated in Wife Swapping. It started innocently enough... a little touching and kissing and then petting and sex and Wife Swapping began. Through the end of the 60's and into the 70's it was one or two couples having sex between that small group. The groups grew in size and as the younger set progressed into their thirties and with all the protests going on younger married couples started with the wife swapping but as a continuation of those protests and from their college lifestyles. Wife swapping quickly changed or evolved into 3somes and then singles with married people. Wife Swapping became Swapping. As the phenomena grew and as gays came out of the closet so did the bi sexuality of the women emerge. Men quickly decided that they liked that and Swapping, as a term, was replaced, by and large, by the term Swinging. Clubs and organizations sprang into being in the late 80's and throughout the 90's. In a nut shell swinging grew from the 60's phenomena of Wife Swapping. Yes there was promiscuity before that but not so organized and so open.

The human animal is like so many others on this planet, not put together to be monogamous. We were given certain drives that were primarily for the survival of the species. Have sex with many and procreate and populate the earth. Over the millennia man has, for the purposes of property and progeny protection decided that monogamy would put to rest those problems. But like so many other brilliant ideas of mankind, it has side effects. Men and women had to break the law to satisfy that old instint. We as people are poly-sexual thus Swinging works.

Some say Swinging is not for everyone. That may be true only because some people cannot get beyond their programming and training. They deny their own sexuality because it is against the laws of man and GOD. They should not give into their sexuality because they would be weak and taking the easy way out. And finally we come to JEALOUSY.. The "emotion".. Fact is Jealousy is NOT an emotion it is FEAR.. Pear of inadequacy, fear of loosing, fear of not getting their share and posession. She or he is mine.

Swinging is growing. People are learning. Yes, we have a lot to learn but Swinging opens the communications and promotes good family relations as well as the ability to get along with others. It's hard ...to be unkind to a fuc...buddie. And when you're that open with people, it promotes harmony between people and families...

This is a very good piece that you have written. Being one that grew up in this time period you have written about, I have seen for myself exactly what you are talking about. Today, I am open with my feelings and desires, but my wife being raised in a strick Southern Baptist home, still has problems with all this. I would love to get into the lifestyle and she says not yet. Problem is life is short and time passes fast. Yesterday, we were only 25, and now today we have awaken to realize that we are in our mid fifties. Tomorrow, well who knows tomorrow may never come. Again, good piece, well written and all who read your post should take note.
BP

Brief articles like these are so helpful to newbies. But I can't help wondering if some of the veterans don't also have more SPECIFICS to share (like how to combat jealousy--i.e. friendships, precautions....) with some of us still starting out. I was born of a swinging, feminist mother who knew how to enjoy life (sex being a small part of an overall swinging experience for me) and who taught me that conventions were banal and unworthy of second thought (we're hedonists like that). But I was still unprepared for the swinging life. Even after several years, my husband of almost 2 decades isn't sure he can "handle" seeing me have sex with a guy. I empathize with him because I was once limited in my emotions regarding swinging as well. However, I'm hard pressed to find any practical information on how to ease his fears or how I can handle it so that he feels secure. As my ex-girlfriend and I discussed: WE NEED A MANUAL (not for the sex, just the politics--lol). Maybe we'll get one started here....
Audrelorde and Eon

Comments: My wife and I have not had our first sexual experience but the discussions are on-going about having sex with a person not your mate and whether jealousy would rear it's head. We have been married a few years but the relationship is very solid. We share fantasies before love making and and many "real world" discussions come up about sex with another person and how would you handle it; especially jealousy. During our sexual experiences, it is always vocal and discussing what it would be like for someone else to either have oral or anual sex with her. During climaxing, it is very explosive. A great deal of tension is released from the fantasy and the reality of sex cum together. How do you work with the issues around developing security so the other person knows who really loves them for better or for worse? I welcome your comments. James