I would like to put my 2 cents in. I am well aware that I might be wasting my time on this site, but I am a single maile with herpes and it seems to me that there are others in the lifestyle in the same boat. This doesn't mean that we are no fun to talk to, no fun to party with, or so on. At the very least, maybe we can just watch and NOT participate in anything. I am open and honest about this, and I am also NOT pushy or aggressive. I just want to have fun, and I would hope that there are some open minded people on here who are NOT afraid to talk to me. I don't want to spread anything, but I would like some new friends. And maybe, just maybe I can find someone in the lifestyle that has the same problem. I can hope and dream. Just a easygoing guy that wants some fun!

Janosvan,

i empathize, buddy, as i'm rowing in the same boat. ;)

i posted in the STDs thread, but i accidentally checked 'anonymous'.

i really don't care who knows, as i can interact with people anyway. i tell people about myself before i do anything. most of the time, i still have no problem finding action because they get themselves informed on it and make an educated decision. and those are the people i'd rather swing with.

good luck, hun!

I am proud to say all I have ever had is safe sex. I do not have this problem and would not ever want to wish it on anyone. But If you pack your oun condoms and make shure the participating partner knows that you will not under any circumstance have unprotected sex for their protection as well as your own safe being then what is the big deal? There is worse std's to have and you can contract them if you dont maintain this mindset..Your partner should respect your decision to protect yourself and them!