Hi all, i'm new to this, so here's some basic questions I have-
A. what is soft swap? how differnt from hard swap?
B. what does ISO mean?
C. what does "freind with benefits" or "_________ with benefits" mean? Is that the same as saying "pay me for sex" cuz if it is, well, if I wanted to pay for it I can just go down the street and get it although there you risk diseases and criminal elements, is that the point? I kind of find the whole concept of paying for it offensive and cheapening. I don't want to lower myself to that level.

Soft Swap... Depends on the couple but it can mean very little from touching or kissing to everything and anything short of intercourse.

ISO = is seeking only or is seeking others

Friends with benefits is friends but with sex, swapping, or soft swap... in other words sexually explicit interaction with friends

and it's a big fat NADA on the pay for play.. not part of the swinging scene.

Nw to the secne we are I'm writting today my hubby is at work but then again so am I. We love this site for swingers. I was starting to think we were crazy and that not many people were like this so open and honest in their relationships. This is Great and I think with benfits doesn't have to mean sex it can mean hanging out with the woman of the cpl you are hanging out with or the guys can now have anew golf buddy either way with benifits is with benifits eaither way you want to look at it.
Any body with any general info other than what I've already read love to hear it. Thanks. Oh we have been a swinging cpl since we have been together almost 3yrs so we do know a bit about this stuff but never to old to learn something new and we are new to the internet part of the swinging. So if anyone has info in that matter it's wanted. Oh we did read about the web cam buissness. Thanks and look foward to talking with many people in the future