This weekend my wife and I had an open and honest discussion about our sexuality and our desires. We realized in the course of the discussion that we were both interested in swinging. It's amazing to me how good it felt to be completely honest with her about this and every other aspect of our lives together. Since then we have had two nights of the best sex the two of us can remember. The sad thing is that it took us seven years to realize that we can be this honest with each other. But I digress!
We want to know what we should do next. We're like kids at Christmas, we can't wait to open up our new present to each other. But we do realize at this point we haven't completely thought this out. Where would be a good place to learn more? Should we go to a party? Should we chat with people on-line? Should we go to a lifestyle resort?
Somebody please help us! We are busting over with excitement and want to know more.

Thanks to all who respond!

I understand that feeling only it took us 17years to get to the point you are now...so do all of your ideas, look for clubs, email people on this site and others, there are hundreds just keep looking. Enjoy and have fun...the only other thing I can say is to make sure there is a pic of both of you in your profiles even without face if that is more comfortable. I really hate to read a profile and think sounds like we could get along just to see only pics of female, or if you do not want to post any be willing to send when received from others. Well enough rambling.Good luck and dont let anything stop you. Tinykink

Let's see if I can finish this this time.. Got almost finished and it disappeared. You asked several questions in your profile and in your post here.. First you might want to read some books or watch a video or two... Some of the books are listed on the home page lower left... Ethical Slut, Polyamory, The Lifestyle, Recreational Sex and not listed Nina Hartly has an educational DVD or VHS on starting swinging......

By all means talk to people...Meet people... Go to an Off Premise club.. Check them out to find out what the club is like... They all have personalities of their own... Talk to the owners see if they can have a member or two contact you... When you find one that sounds good ..go see what happens at the social/(Dance) and then if it has an after party or party place or floor etc go see what goes on . Then talk about what you see and what you learned.. Maybe go to several clubs so you can see the difference. On Premise and House parties or Lifestyle resorts may be a bit soon.. Find out how you each react to different situations... Play around a bit.. some kissing and touching....with others.. and see how you feel and how you partner feels.. Communication between you will be a big factor in how fast you go.. Don't be in a hurry.... you're young and next week next month the present will get bigger and better... the anticipation will grow.. and when you open the package you'll probably be ready for the present and really like it...

Ray for B&Ray

Browse NASCA's club list. Find clubs nearest to you and read their websites and view the photos. Then, go to a classy, comfortable club in someone's private home where the lounge area is sex free. Once there, be certain that your lady is comfortable with the place; that she thinks the "vibe" is nice. When it feels right, ease into the play areas. Take your time, just watch people in as timid fashion as you feel comfortable with. THROUGHOUT, KEEP IN MIND THAT THERE IS NO OBLIGATION TO PARTICIPATE IN ANYTHING! The people there respect this.

During our first foray, we walked around the play areas just watching for over an hour. Then, when we least expected, a beautiful lady who was reclining on a bed gently reached for my lady's hand and sweetly said, "would you like to lay down?" What followed was beautiful. We've returned 6 more times since. The biggest surprise of all has been how much affection is shared! Have fun!

You two made the first step without Knowing it!
Honesty is the most importent part of your relationship, no matter who else is involved.
Your search will be like as a book that just pops of the shelf when it's time for you to read it.
Would'nt have made any sense before then! Don't rush it.
We're new too, and thinking maybe an older couple can help us out.
Experience is the best teacher.
Enjoy, CP & BJ

In reply to sailors:
IT's only years..... LOL besides I'm getting too old to worry or care ... or ..... what was it ... I can't remember....
Ray

Humor is the best way to I've found to open up the discussion. Throw enough risque jokes out there and you can easily open up just about any topic. Unfortunately I already had THE TALK with Sheela and she's just not going to go for it which is one of the reasons I'm going to have to leave her, the other being that in the course of personality profiling research I've been doing, more bad news, we're incompatible on a fundamental level.
Be grateful because imagine how I feel knowing I have to leave this person after spending 10 years with her and finally getting some financial sucess. But a cage is a cage is a cage by any other name should imprison me...NEVER
-kris

you all seam to me to worry to much about the impression that you leave with people,if u all say yeh yeh bulshit then look back at ur questions,life goes on no matter what we do so we may aswell do as we like . (sorry but u did all seem a bit morbid

In reply to yogifuckinbe:
Don't understand your comments... Not really morbid either. People ask questions that they would like some help with. We all know that life goes on and concerns tomorrow will be different than today's.. But for a young fellow relax.. lifes way too short for any attitude.
Ray

nothing wrong with trying to make a good impression, although ideally you want to simply try to be your best and the impression comes out naturally. As far as being morbid, I think yogifuckingberra is a little off base there, DUDE tell you what, yogi, after you have 20 years of being in various kinds of Relationships, then you can consider yourself qualified to say who's being morbid and who's putting out false impressions.

If this will be your first time try to have a threesome with a friend[male].The first time you have sex with a different man than your husband will awakend you to all the new possibilities in your relationship.